If your 2024 New Year’s resolution is to spice things up in the bedroom, then pegging could be just what the doctor ordered. If you go back a few years, the idea of pegging was commonly seen as taboo. But thanks to the internet and the normalisation of conversation surrounding sex and pleasure, pegging is experiencing a resurgence of interest.
First things first: pegging is traditionally used to describe a woman wearing a strap-on dildo who penetrates her man anally. The dildo usually fits into a harness worn by the person penetrating so the dildo can be attached and then thrust towards the
peach of the person who is experimenting with their submissive side. It’s the ultimate role reversal.
It’s worth noting: although the traditional term of pegging is a woman pegging a man, non-binary folks can enjoy pegging as well as trans men who use strap-ons to pleasure their partner. Pegging is for everyone. Here is how to prepare for pegging and some food for thought for overcoming any shame or you feel surrounding the practice.
1. Peach play = pleasure
Are you a guy on the fence about pegging and unsure about whether you would find it pleasurable? We have one word for you. Prostate. Having a penis means you are lucky enough to have a prostate. The prostate is a small walnut-sized gland located around 2 inches inside the anus.
This small yet powerful part of the body is responsible for causing semen to be ejaculated through the penis and is the centre of pleasure which is referred to as ‘the male G-spot’. So playing in this area can unlock untold amounts of pleasure and lead to the most explosive orgasms of your life.
Many people with prostates report that after stimulation they can experience more powerful or even multiple orgasms. If this doesn’t tempt you, what will?
2. The hygiene code of pegging
When people speak about anal play, 9 times out of 10 the number one concern is always poop. Although the phrase ‘shit happens’ applies here, there are some things you can do to avoid a messy situation. Making sure you have gone to the toilet an hour or so before taking part in pegging is a great way to ensure your bowels are clear. You can eat lighter foods the day you plan on playing as well as having a thorough wash in the shower before getting down (and hopefully not) dirty.
Some people who like pegging like to also douche, which involves squirting small amounts of water inside the anus until the water comes out clear. Although to curb poop anxiety, it’s not a necessary step to do. If you are still worried it’s worth remembering that, If you play in the mud, don’t be surprised to get dirty. If you do happen to see some mess – it’s natural and honestly not the end of the world. Your partner should make you feel comfortable, and if worst comes to worst you can clean up and try again another time.
3. Testing is good
If the idea of a dildo or strap-on terrifies you then why not start small? Rome wasn’t built in a day, and if you are an anal virgin then lubing up your finger and trying for yourself can be a great way to get confident. Remember your prostate is only a few inches inside, so you don’t have to dig too deep to find gold.
Make sure your finger is very wet, or coated in lube and just play around. Find out what feels good for your body and allow yourself to succumb to the pleasures of an anal orgasm. You could also try a butt plug or specialist prostate dildo on yourself before you try with your partner.
4. Take it slow
When it’s time to get into it, make sure you have an open dialogue with your partner. Tell them what you want to experience and allow the pleasure to unfold. Make sure you are using PLENTY of lubricant and that the strap-on is coated before you go in. Take things slow and find your rhythm.
If you want to stop at any point or take a break, make sure to communicate that to your partner. Remember you don’t have to do anything you are uncomfortable with. Once you start to get the hang of things you can speed it up. Pegging is meant to be pleasurable so don’t hold back and get lost in the experience!
5. Let go of shame
Let’s be real, the main reason why many men are wary of pegging is because of internalised homophobia, so it’s worth mentioning that enjoying pegging does not suddenly mean that you’re gay. One more time for the people in the back, *coughs* enjoying pegging does not make you gay(!!!) As we say, the prostate is located in the anus therefore enjoying anal play is simply a natural physical sensation, that is completely separate from your sexual orientation.
If a woman is pegging you then you are still having sex with a woman. So don’t feel ashamed or worried about pegging. Just simply enjoy the delights of anal play and the explosive orgasms that come with it. Life is far too short to not enjoy pleasure!
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Drew
Drew, aka Wise and Manly is a sexuality coach helping people to love themselves. As a bisexual man, he makes content about owning and embracing your sexuality as well as accepting your authentic self.
