So what brought you to Tulum?
I bought a one-way ticket to Cancun a few weeks ago. I love New York but once summer ended I got this feeling that winter was going to be rough. Seeking is trash right now and the thought of having to walk 15 minutes to and from the subway in the cold every day to my shitty waitress job all winter was too depressing to bear. I’d never been to Mexico but tons of people — including you — are going there because the exchange rate is really good right now.
So ya I spent a week in Cancun before taking a bus to Tulum. I had a few thousand dollars saved up and didn’t go into this trip dead set one way or another to find daddies. I’m at peace with sugaring as something that can be fun and convenient with the right person but I can take or leave. It’s losing its thrill though. At 20, I found the whole thing dangerous, taboo, exciting. Now it feels like everyone does it. It’s harder and harder to find worthwhile people and at the same time, my standards are getting higher. But it’s not a bad backup plan to have when you’re traveling with no real plan to begin with,
How has your experience varied in Mexico versus New York?
It’s hard to compare cause I’ve had way more in-person experiences in New York than Mexico or anywhere else, but one thing for sure is pricing. I’m getting offered half if not less than what I can get in New York. And like yes, I get the cost of living down here is way less but the annoying thing is that a lot of the guys I’ve been talking to have Tulum listed as their second or third location. So they are these rich finance and tech dudes based in LA and New York who are just fucking around in Tulum for vacation and could be paying inflated tourist rates but aren’t.
Other than that, I would say there are a lot of similarities. There’s a diverse crowd but there is in New York too. I met up with three guys so far but only hooked up with one of them. We went out for dinner, then back to his hotel room — you know, same shit different country. I will say the novelty of being a tourist and going out to all these places the locals probably find over the top in the way I found touristy spots in New York, has been fun. Just having a built-in adventure buddy who pays for everything isn’t a bad deal. Definitely doing way boujeer shit than I would be doing if I were by myself.
What’s your craziest story so far?
So bad crazy would be this pushy guy who was really fixated on paying me $200 for anal and I was like “bye.” Good crazy would this ethically non-monogamist influencer type who I’m pretty sure is a famous DJ and I was like really excited to meet. We FaceTimed and everything and he was gonna have his driver come like two hours to get me and drive two hours back to come meet this guy at his show. It was a whole vibe. But then the craziest thing happened! So as you know I’ve been more into spirituality lately and went into this trip open to teaches and plant medicine ceremonies and what not.
So this guy in his sixties ends up meeting me on the beach. I don’t get sexual vibes at all, which is reinforced when he says he would never have sex with someone who is vaccinated. Anyways long story short we end up taking acid together and he tells me about this off-the-grid school in Guatemala where you do yoga and learn how to astral project and shit. So basically the universe was giving me two options: go meet up with this famous DJ or trust this weird old sage guy who’s telling me to fast for 5 days before doing a moon ritual and going to Guatemala to learn the ancient secrets of divine wisdom.
And like as crazy as it sounds, my intuition told me that I need to lean into this spiritual opportunity. So here I am, one week after making that decision. In Guatemala which is much cheaper than touristy parts of Mexico I had been staying in. The people I’m meeting are flawed just like the daddies I’ve met on Seeking and just like everybody in life. But it feels like this is where I’m supposed to be right now. So I’m gonna be here for like the next six months apparently.
What advice would you give to babies trying to get sugar while abroad?
It’s definitely a different game. Being a woman traveling alone already comes with its risks but honestly, I’ve felt just as safe or unsafe — however you want to phrase it — using Seeking here as I have in New York. But I mean obviously, you gotta be smart. Stay within touristy areas you know. Meet in a public setting first. I think probably the most unnerving part is coming up with the kidnap escape game plan.
In the states, you call 911 but it’s different here. So before doing any sugar stuff, I spent 5 or 10 minutes just looking into how law enforcement works in Mexico and saving the emergency service number as a contact just so that it’s right there and ready to dial if anything goes bad. At this point in my life, I’ve gotten pretty good at trusting my intuition when it comes to people’s energies. I attribute a lot of that to sugaring.
Any closing thoughts?
I feel like the plot twist to go live at this magical ashram is kind of off-brand for this interview but at the same time, it’s not. Our pussy power is inexplicably linked to the spiritual journey you and I find ourselves on. There are no coincidences in life. The whole reason I got into sugaring in the first place relates to all of this, even if I don’t fully understand it now. Sugaring has also always given me the freedom to live my life the way I want. How else would I be able to dip out to South America indefinitely?
Jules
Based in Brooklyn, Jules has dedicated her twenties towards harnessing her pussy power, exploring the muse, whore, and wild woman archetypes along the way. When not blogging, you can find her sweating the toxins out in a hot yoga class or sipping a matcha latte at a pretentious coffee shop, whilst she scribbles away in her journal.
