From the religious connotations of blood play, to the innate human craving for fear; this was our thrilling chat with the enchanting Philadelphia-based Dominatrix, Mistress Hellga.
‘Controlling you is simple, I’m doing it right now, keep reading.’
Mistress Hellga is a Dominatrix based in Philadelphia but also offering FMTY and online services. In-session, she enjoys exploring kinks such as tease and denial, role-play, and worship. We had a virtual sit down to understand her passion for pain.
Could you briefly introduce yourself and what you do?
My name is Mistress Hellga and I’m a Dominatrix. I don’t specialise in anything at the moment because I have only been in the industry for about a year so I’m still very much exploring all of my interests, though I definitely found recently that beating something with a belt is… (chef’s kiss) amazing.
Philadelphia Dominatrix: Mistress Hellga.
What was your journey into this world?
From a young age I knew that I was very into my sensuality. From time to time I would see depictions of sex workers and I knew that I wanted to be part of the industry. Like many others, I got into OnlyFans in 2020, but I didn’t like the power dynamic with the clientele and myself, where I felt I was giving to their demand.
In 2023 I saw an event on Fetlife about erotic disgust, and so I showed up (in pink crocs, no less) whilst everyone else was wearing black spiked boots. Anyway (!) There I saw a Dominatrix piss on someone, and my mind was completely blown. Ever since that wonderful day, I have been educating myself through classes and mentoring, to safely practise what I love doing most!
How would you describe your domme style?
Mistress Hellga.
My Domme style is very sensual. I also love to domme in a sort of ditsy, teasing way, like ‘Oh? Is that turning you on right now?’
Let’s talk about kernel kinks.
‘Kernel kinks’ is a phrase coined by ‘Coaching by Kali’ and it refers to the specific feeling you and your partner(s) are seeking to achieve through play.
One of my kernel kinks is fear. Seeing people’s fear elicits such a guttural response from me.
People go to haunted houses, people go on rollercoasters, as they crave that feeling of uncertainty while being in a controlled space. It’s the aspect of playing with fear in a safe space.
I really enjoy people’s reactions when it comes to fear and how it derives from a sense that they might lose something because of me.
My other kernel kink is worship. I enjoy people worshipping every aspect of my body from my hairy legs, to my smelly pits, the length of my hair, the colour of my skin, the female figure. I also see fluid play as part of this. Someone consuming my period blood has a lot of religious connotations, in consuming the blood and the flesh of Jesus. When someone consumes my blood they are putting me on a pedestal of godliness.
Mistress Hellga.
What are your most popular requests from clients?
Since I am relatively new and don’t specialise in anything yet, nobody is flocking to me for specific things, they are more likely coming to me for exoticism, and wanting popular sensual services such as some light impact play, degradation, foot worship, the standard stuff.
Has being a person of colour affected your Domme journey?
I know from other Dommes that being Caucasian or Asian makes it harder to engage race play. In that sense, I feel privileged to be able to play in that arena in such an intimate way without making people believe that I have a sort of super extreme racial superiority to them.
Career-wise, I used to think my skin colour was a detriment to myself, because I mostly saw depictions of Dommes who were white or Asian, so I was wondering where I fitted in the picture. But then I saw people like Venus Cuffs, Madame Caramel, Mistress Marley, Mistress Ariana Chevalier, and they’re all amazing, powerful and successful black Dommes.
I see my exoticism as a power now, as I stand out from the majority of other Dommes and don’t have to try so hard to differentiate myself.
What makes a session special to you?
Mistress Hellga.
What makes a session memorable to me is the collaboration, where we both have a kink and we meet in the middle, creating a whole other world together.
The reactions of someone are also what I love the most. I do whatever I need to do to get them to a point of fear, disgust, or pain, and I love seeing them experiencing those emotions and then eventually coming to a resolve of relief and sensuality.
What do you wish more people knew about BDSM?
That people in the kink world take many years to learn their specific skills. There’s a lot of education involved. When you see something online, or at a kink party, do not try it at home. It can be incredibly dangerous. If you want to try out new kinks, you should learn with a professional first.
What is a small and unexpected pleasure about being a Domme?
Honestly, community. I love my community.
Sex work can feel competitive, but everyone I have ever met is so supportive, we’re always there for each other and giving each other opportunities.
This was a very unexpected and beautiful pleasure for me.
Mistress Hellga.
How has your relationship with BDSM evolved over time?
It has gone from a tinder fling, to a full blown marriage and baby. It escalated so fast! I always wanted to be compensated for Domming, because I see that a lot of people who do this for free are kind of getting taken advantage of. When you have the skills and education needed, I think you should be paid and respected for that.
What would be your advice for people just starting out as a Domme?
Find community. If there’s no one around you, find people online. Create a presence online. Go to events, show your face, because this is everything. Differentiate yourself. Have a unique name. Become educated. Do not fuck over your friends and colleagues in the industry. Be pleasant to work with, do the things you say you’re going to do and have integrity.
What are your hopes for the future of BDSM?
I hope communities within BDSM continue to mix and continue to share information. I hope older generations pass things on to the younger ones, and that there’s mutual respect between these generations.
We have a lot to learn from our elders and to be passed down. I hope that knowledge exchange continues.
Iso is a writer and filmmaker based in East London. She is passionate about all things erotic and leads a sexy, shame-free life in hope that she can inspire others to do the same. Originally from a Northern seaside town, she is naturally drawn to the best things in life: candyfloss, trashy karaoke bars and heart-shaped sunglasses.
Mistress Hellga
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Mistress Hellga is a Philadelphia-based Dominatrix offering online and in-person services. She has been in touch with her sensuality from a young age, and now uses this superpower to create enriching experiences that leaves a lasting, bone chilling impression.
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