‘My vibe is highschool cheerleader bully with an Asian tiger mom intensity.’ Mae Ling is the adorable Domme next door, that just loves to play. Based in LA, she offers domination experiences both online and in-person from gentle Femdom to diaper play. We had a virtual sit-down to understand her personal journey in kink.

Could you introduce yourself and what you do?

I am a silly human that loves to play and find the lightness within life.

I love finding the tune that plays a person until they vibrate and sing.

Connecting the song of their heart, mind, spirit and physical being creating a harmonious melody of authenticity, this is what pleases me and makes me happy. People offer themselves up at my feet as an instrument for me to play as an arpeggio of breath, command and laughter.

Meet LA Dominatrix, Mae Ling
Meet LA Dominatrix, Miss Mae Ling.

What was your journey into this world?

I was introduced into the BDSM realm after attending a rope workshop, 10 years ago. From there the rope rigger took me to a dungeon play party and I was like a kid in a candy store. Since then I dove straight in with learning from multiple play partners and trying my hand at a variety of fetishes and kinks.

I traveled the world for 4 years and experienced the kink culture and culture in a uniquely tailored manner. All leading me here; traveling the world as I please as an international professional dominatrix with others bending over backwards to please me.

What specific services do you offer in session?

Both online and in person are offered, with priority for in person.

My all time favorite kinks to explore are adult diapers, forced bi, full toilet training and group sessions with my friends or with my female submissive.

Meet LA Dominatrix, Mae Ling
Dominatrix Miss Mae Ling.

What makes a session special to you?

Every time someone is truly vulnerable and trusts you, the connection is something that words can merely shine light on. It is a feeling of comfort and safety where you feel liberated, seen and heard in all aspects of who you are. To find and feel this in a fear driven world where people are judged and ridiculed by others who are projecting their own insecurities onto others is relieving.

What is a small and unexpected pleasure about being a domme?

It has been a wonderful path of meditation for myself. In order to be a good Domme, I needed to know myself – my desires, my wants, my excitements. A path of understanding, accepting and celebrating myself. The beauty of being and existing is not only enough, but an overflowing joy of love.

How would you describe your domme style?

My vibe is highschool cheerleader bully with an Asian tiger mom intensity.

Meet LA Dominatrix, Mae Ling
Dominatrix Miss Mae Ling.

Tell us something that you wish more people knew about BDSM?

That it can look and feel different from person to person, scene to scene and beyond. It can consist of minute details or be elaborate as a weekend getaway. It is flexible and shifts often, to adapt and highlight life itself. People interface this way throughout everyday life with various power dynamics, whether they agree or see that it is a form of BDSM is up to them.

What have you learned about yourself and secondarily, about life from domming?

The things I’ve learned about myself and about life are both the same.

The more I deny someone of something, the more I say ‘no’, the hotter it gets.

The more money I make, the more excited I get, the more taboo it seems, the moment a yes occurs, it is like fireworks. An authentic true yes, where every single cell in your body is jumping with joy that this moment has come! And that makes it all the more precious.

Meet LA Dominatrix, Mae Ling
Dominatrix Miss Mae Ling.

Advice for newbie dommes?

Learn the foundations of BDSM and the psychology of it and then find your own flavor. Try it once, maybe twice or maybe even a third time with a different person or even at a later time. Your boundaries change as you evolve and it could very much be that a certain someone will bring out that dark side of you.

Be yourself as that will attract the right people to you which will energize you rather than exhaust you. It’s your world after all, you get to choose who gets to be in it.

Any closing thoughts?

If you’re not having fun doing it, why are you doing it?

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Iso

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Iso is a writer and filmmaker based in East London. She is passionate about all things erotic and leads a sexy, shame-free life in hope that she can inspire others to do the same. Originally from a Northern seaside town, she is naturally drawn to the best things in life: candyfloss, trashy karaoke bars and heart-shaped sunglasses.

Mae Ling

Mae Ling

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Miss Mae Ling is the Adorable domme, the girl next door that just loves to play - the kinky way. Her passion and joy comes from unlocking and unblocking others' emotional and sexual journey.


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