The initial title of this article was: Pegging someone for the first time made me realize I’m a switch and I couldn’t be happier. So if you’re still on the fence about pegging, allow me to tell you all about my first experience, which revealed to me new and wonderful aspects of my sexual psyche.
My never ending issues with authority and need to be dominated have made me identify as a bratty sub since the moment I learned the existence of the term. Don’t you dare tell me what to do but also please tell me what to do and praise me for every. little. thing.
‘Bratty sub’ seemed to encompass everything I needed it to, I liked it and didn’t feel the need to question it or wonder if it fit my personality perfectly. Even so, it was naive to think this would never change, as our sexuality is constantly evolving and adapting to our current situation.
I started questioning my submissiveness the day I had my second MFF threesome. Polly was a tall, blonde Australian who identified as a lesbian. “Why would you want to play with me and my male friend?” I asked.
“I get extremely horny for dick when I am ovulating,” she replied. (Later she explained she’s homoflexible but doesn’t like men hitting on her and it’s easier to just say she’s a lesbian).
I had not considered being anything other than a good girl when it came to men until I met Noah, a devoted athlete who -to my delight- identifies as bisexual and is very sexually open.
We had not discussed our sexual preferences in detail but once I was sitting on her lap making out with her and rubbing my body against hers, she confided that she’s very submissive in bed. “Tell me what to do and choke me, ” she pleaded.
I also identified as a sub and was momentarily conflicted but quickly decided I was only happy to tune in to my domme side for Polly. The fact that she was almost a foot taller than me (5’1 vs 6’0) didn’t stop me from calling the shots, giving her several orgasms and wrapping my tiny hand around her neck. The night was a success and I decided that I was very much open to dominating women if the situation called for it.
I had not considered being anything other than a good girl when it came to men until I met Noah, a devoted athlete who -to my delight- identifies as bisexual and is very sexually open. We matched on Feeld and after a few video calls and an amazing first date that included a sex party in Brooklyn, I knew I wanted to keep seeing him. “What do you feel like doing?” he asked during our second sexual encounter.
“Something exciting, I don’t want to just have boring P-in-V sex” I boldly said.
“I’d love it if you pegged me” he surprised me with. My hungry eyes must have given my excitement away but I still clarified that I’d be honored. He had already gone down on my wet pussy and done a small impact scene with a vegan leather paddle on the back of my naked body.
I want to make it clear that this man came wearing a chest leather piece and a cage around his dick.
I was dying to be inside of him. While I had never pegged anyone, I felt qualified and confident I could do a good job. My work as a sexologist has taught me a lot and I also enjoy eating ass, which is a small but nice stepping stone.
I want to make it clear that this man came wearing a chest leather piece and a cage around his dick. When I tell you I was drooling, I am barely exaggerating. He truly is one of the hottest people I’ve played with -I definitely let him know my thoughts and showered him with compliments-.
Anyway, I thought he’d need some warming up (like rimming or a finger) but he said he was ready for penetration. Initially, I wanted to wear a harness and strap on because I had been having too much sex the past few days and wanted to give my vagina a break. Noah thought that dildo was too big and that he preferred to use the doubled dildo I showed him.
I grabbed my natural, water based lube and squirted way more than I needed on the toy and his asshole. I wanted to make sure no pain was involved in this experience and I didn’t have any oil or silicone based lube with me.
A few minutes had passed before he asked me to insert the other part of the toy in my pussy and fuck him without mercy.
I slowly inserted the toy with my hands to make sure I could control the depth and asked him for a ton of feedback. He was so ready for me and wanted the whole dildo at once. I didn’t comply and kept about half outside until he got used to the sensation. He was moaning and truly enjoying it. I took a quick break to put down a waterproof blanket since we were already making a mess with the lube and to reapply more of it.
Let’s not forget his dick is still caged at this point, begging to be let out (the cage didn’t allow him to get hard so he was stru-gg-ling).
I grabbed the toy with both hands and started moving it in different directions until I found the one he enjoyed the most (in and out was the winner). A few minutes had passed before he asked me to insert the other part of the toy in my pussy and fuck him without mercy. I reapplied lube and got ready to give him exactly what he needed.
The toy is tricky to use but once you manage to get it right, it makes all the difference. Noah’s face completely changed and his moans were about two octaves higher. “This is how it’s supposed to feel, OMG, don’t stop”. I wouldn’t dare interrupt such a wonderful scene.
He moaned, dirty talked and announced he was about to cum. I told him to cum in my mouth…
We did have to stop though; his cock couldn’t take it anymore. We got the cage off, I reapplied lube everywhere, this time including his throbbing dick and truly got to work. Now, I don’t have the greatest endurance, I was already tired and my body sore. I still couldn’t stop if I wanted to. Noah’s pleasure was giving me all the energy I needed.
He was on his back, I was on my knees with the toy inside of me (which was not pleasurable by itself), moving in and out while stroking his dick and checking in with him at the same time (coordination queen). The visuals of those moments will never leave my brain. Noah was having the time of his life and I was too. Giving someone that much pleasure is one of the most fulfilling sexual experiences of my life, even if I didn’t physically get anything out of it.
He moaned, dirty talked and announced he was about to cum. I told him to cum in my mouth (which meant contorting my body even more lol). He happily obliged. He had a full body orgasm and I wasn’t the slightest bit upset when we both collapsed without any further play (me fully on top of him) and wound down for about 15 min in silence. It was beautiful. Sadly he had to leave soon after but not without us telling each other this was not the last time he would have my dick inside of him.
It’s been almost a year since this experience and I can confidently say, I get ecstatic when someone wants to show me their submissive side. I can now make the switch naturally and fully embrace my domme side, especially when there’s a dick strapped to my body.
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Alexa André
Alexa Andre is a 26-year-old sexologist and content creator who is passionate about helping people lead more pleasurable lives. Alexa has built a successful career by sharing her expertise and insights on topics related to sexual health, relationships, and intimacy. Through her writing, videos, and social media presence, she has amassed a dedicated following of individuals who appreciate her frank and non-judgmental approach to sex education. Whether she's discussing the latest research on pleasure, offering tips for exploring new sensations, or answering common questions about sexual health, Alexa's goal is to empower her audience to lead more fulfilling and satisfying lives.
