Describe your hair status (color / thickness / grooming etc.).
Bald head. Hedges are trimmed. Balls are shaved. Nice and tidy.
What are your personal preferences for hair – pubic and otherwise – in a partner? Where do you think these preferences come from?
I mean, I love a shaved, bald pussy. It just feels better. There’s less resistance, less friction. I think the preference comes from experimenting with different things. I actually love shaving my own legs for the same reason – nice, smooth skin feels good! But ya, I love when my partner is totally shaved or shaved with a landing strip.
Wax / shave / laser hair removal — what’s your preference when it comes to hair removal and why?
Shave. Haven’t tried wax..sounds very painful. And I’m afraid of lasers. I just shave my balls and keep a nice, trimmed shaft.
Have you ever made love to a woman with a bush and / or armpit / leg hair? What was that experience like?
Yes. It was fine. She had a full bush. We were having sex and when I went down there I kind of gagged on the hair because it was so long.
Then suggested that I give her a trim. So I brought her to my bathtub and trimmed her, leaving her with something short and tidy. It was much nicer to go down on her afterwards and she was very appreciative. It was the first time anyone did that for her.
I definitely don’t judge a woman who has hair down there or under her arms or whatever. I’m just not the biggest fan of hair in my mouth!
Do you think it’s unfair of men who don’t groom their nether regions to hold women to a hairless standard?
Yes, I do. I think it’s a double standard and it’s bullshit. Men should take care of their grooming as much as they expect a woman to take care of her grooming.
How much of an impact do you think porn and / or tv media has on your preferences?
I’m sure porn has some kind of influence. But in the end, I think it’s more of an aesthetic thing. The actual physical sensations feel better when it’s shaved. Logistically speaking, I just don’t like the feeling of hair deep in my throat.
Do you talk to your friends about this type of stuff? If yes, do you find that you are generally aligned on hair preferences or does it vary from person to person?
I don’t talk about this with my friends. It’s funny because the majority of my friends are women but I don’t think I’ve ever asked any of them how they tidy up down there.
In recent years, have you noticed more people leaning into the au natural look? (Beards / bushes / armpit hair) What are you thoughts on this cultural phenomenon?
I’d say it depends on the sphere. I’m pansexual and I’d say that my queer lovers – the non-binary, gender neutral, gender flexible types – definitely seem to like to let it grow harrier. The more cis leaning people I date tend to follow more traditional grooming habits – shaved armpits, shaved bushes.
Gender seems to have some kind of connection. The trans men I’ve dated don’t shave much. I think because armpit hair and beards are seen as masculine and they want to appear more masculine,
What have your partners said about your hair (pubic / armpit / leg / facial / head) and their preferences for how you should groom and how has it made you feel?
No one has ever told me what to do with my body but they have expressed preferences. I don’t take offense but I’ll probably take it with a grain of salt. I personally hate facial hair and hate kissing people with facial hair, and so I shave my own out of consideration for others because it feels itchy.
There’s two camps. The camp that loves facial hair and the camp that doesn’t. And then there’s the in-between phase when it’s growing out. Typically no one likes that because it feels like velcro. Stubble is the worst. Although, some women like how it feels down there. I’ve met a couple of women who like the stubble sensation near their inner thighs or pussy or whatever, but never on their face.
I dated two women in a row last year Emily who both had very sensitive skin that was sensitive to stubble so I had to shave really, really well. My new partner, Olga, doesn’t seem to be as sensitive but I still make an effort to stay clean-shaved for her.
Why do you think hair and hairstyles are so important to us as humans?
I think it all comes down to self expression. There’s also a lot of symbology when it comes to hair and gender roles. A woman’s hair is a symbol of beauty in many cultures. Nowadays, women have the chance to express their strength, gender non-conformity, and modern sensibilities by getting a pixie cut or shaving their heads.
Tell me about your intimate shaving experience(s) (giving or receiving).
So that story I told you about the person who I shaved. She was actually the mom of a two year old. I think after she gave birth, she kind of just let her bush go. So me offering to shave it for her was something she was very grateful for and it felt very intimate.
The first experience I had with shaving with a partner was with my ex wife. We had been married for 7 or 8 years and she shaved my head for me. She was a little nervous so she didn’t use much force and had to go back over it a couple more times. I remember feeling super vulnerable and taken care of in that moment.
Olga has gotten really into it with me. I’ll shave her and leave her with a nice little landing strip and then she’ll shave my head and face. It’s such a lovely way to bond with your partner and I definitely recommend experimenting with it.
Olga also loves it when I get her off with my bald head. We’ll be having sex in the shower and I’ll use my head to get her off. And then she’ll squirt all over the place. She orgasms really easily, which is fun because she usually has five or six orgasms in one sexual encounter. I’m so jealous!
Jules
Based in Brooklyn, Jules has dedicated her twenties towards harnessing her pussy power, exploring the muse, whore, and wild woman archetypes along the way. When not blogging, you can find her sweating the toxins out in a hot yoga class or sipping a matcha latte at a pretentious coffee shop, whilst she scribbles away in her journal.
