How long have you been sugaring for?
I have been sugaring on and off for about 4 years.
What got you into the game?
I moved from a small town to a different state (big town) and quickly discovered Tinder & that apparently, I was attractive. Soon after, a close friend told me about a sugar baby website. She had never used it herself. Since I was already having casual (and oftentimes lame) sex with strangers , the idea of getting paid to do the exact same thing was a no brainer.
What were your expectations going in and how did they differ from reality?
Lol. I eeally thought there would be more..LEGITIMATELY WEALTHY sugar daddies ? I’ve met numerous Tinder swindler type men on my sugarquests. Sugaring can be very lucrative if you meet the right people, but in reality it is hit or miss.
What’s the funniest adventure you’ve had so far?
Eating ass on the first date and getting a 2 inch long anal pube stuck down my throat.
What about the most cringe?
Eating ass on the first date and getting a 2 inch long anal pube stuck down my throat.
What advice would you give to your younger self?
For one, I would tell my younger self to not eat ass on the first date, unless it is a 2k meal at least. I would also advise myself to take absolutely no shit from anyone, and to steal shit from these boys’ houses once or twice every now and then. Deadass.
What lessons have you learned through sugaring?
So many lessons. The most important by far has been to Trust Myself Above All Else, and to never ignore my instincts. Other lessons include: do not fear negotiation, do not fear money, do have as open a mind as possible with any person/ in any situation, and do always remain aware .
Have you told friends and family about what you do? If no, what’s it like having to keep that secret? And if yes, how did they react?
While I myself told my friends about sugaring, my mom found out via my ex-boyfriend’s mom. For me sex work isn’t a secret, and only was for a very short time. My friends have had mixed reactions (none fully negative), but my mom’s reaction was and continues to be extremely rough. That being said, my being a sugarbaby has spurred countless (difficult) conversations between us about sexuality, sex work, gender, money, and spirituality to name a few topics. While our relationship has been hard since she found out, I think we have both grown immensely. We still love one another more than anyone else.
Do you have a plan / end goal of when you want to get out of the game?
There are many ways to play “the game”. For me it has ranged from Rich Guy’s GF(ish) to Escort In Vegas. I honestly don’t know if I’d call myself a sugarbaby at this point. All I know is that there are certain people who want to hang out with me more than I want to hang out with them. In order to hang out with certain people, there must be an incentive. So long answer short, I do not have a plan/end goal to getting out of the game.
Do you have any regrets about your path?
Big picture path? No regrets, it’s the correct direction. Some missteps/wipeouts along the way? See Questions 4 and 5.
How many daddies have you / do you currently see?
Currently at 0. There are a couple daddies I could hit up, but I haven’t in a few months.
What’s your vibe like with them? Is there physical and / or emotional chemistry or are you just focused on making dat moolah?
During the first threeish years, the majority of interactions were mostly physical and entirely moolah-based. We call this “fuck you, pay me”. Over this past >1 year, I’ve been trying to give every person I meet the chance for us to naturally connect, no matter the context (online dating, in person, whatever). If I do not care to hang out with the person (for whatever reason), they will then have to offer an incentive for me to spend time with them. No chemistry -> incentive.
Do you know a lot of people in the sugaring / sex work game?
Probably a handful.
What’s your dream arrangement?
Dream arrangement is being legitimately in love with a good person who also happens to be rich so I don’t have to worry about money? Lol. Or someone who pays me a weekly allowance regardless of whether or not we see each other.
Where do you see yourself in 5 years?
This might be my least favorite question ever. I have no idea where I’ll be but hopefully I’m jacked (like, super in shape).
If you had a daddy who could fulfill one wish right now, what would you ask for?
I would wish for him to give me 1 cent doubled every day for the next 34 days.
Do you see sugaring as a stigmatized thing or are we living in truly liberated times?
This is a shitty answer but I think it depends on how you define sugaring for yourself and how you present it to others.
Are you currently dating normies? If so, what’s it like balancing sugaring with normal dating?
Since I am treating both situations the same way, its actually really easy to balance sugaring & normal dating.
How honest do you feel like you’ll be with the next serious partner you have about your sugaring past?
I wouldn’t mention it on the first date, but if I am really serious then complete honesty is a given.
Do you make online content / dabble in other any sex positive activities (feel free to include links if you’d like to be featured)
I do make online content occasionally. It’s just for fun now, and for sharing stories 😉
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Jules
Based in Brooklyn, Jules has dedicated her twenties towards harnessing her pussy power, exploring the muse, whore, and wild woman archetypes along the way. When not blogging, you can find her sweating the toxins out in a hot yoga class or sipping a matcha latte at a pretentious coffee shop, whilst she scribbles away in her journal.
