List your age, gender, and sexual orientation.
27, female, straight.
How long have you been sugaring for?
Coming up on a year which seems kinda crazy.
What got you into the game?
Starting my own online business. Basically, I started sugaring to find investors and in the more short term, to support myself. I’m putting all my time and energy into growing my business and I’m not getting paid to do it, at least not yet. So basically I’m living with my parents and hooking up with daddies I meet online to fund my life.
What were your expectations going in and how did they differ from reality?
It was a lot harder than expected. Aligning busy schedules isn’t easy. Some men are very flakey and others expect you to make plans on the fly.
At times, it almost felt like a full-time job. Responding to messages, scheduling meetups, getting interviewed by potential daddies, having to commute to the city for dates an hour there and back. That shit got really consuming.
It’s gotten better though, just because I’ve found a few regular daddies who at the moment are taking care of my needs. So I’m not having to spend as much time with the back and forth, thank god.
What’s the funniest adventure you’ve had so far?
This daddy I had just met basically invited me to this orgy with his friends and a bunch of other babies. They wanted the girls to kiss, so I went along with it even though girls aren’t my thing.
Not long after, the clothes started to come off and it turned into a full-on orgy. I honestly didn’t find any of the men attractive. There were like 4 guys and 8 or so girls so luckily I felt no obligation to hook up with one of the guys, as they were more than being taken care of.
The girls were all super hot. I started making out with one of them and before I knew it my clothes were coming off and she was going down on me. It was my first and only lesbian experience and honestly it was pretty fun. I’ve always thought of myself as straight but I guess anything goes at an orgy, right?
What advice would you give to your younger self?
Trust your intuition. I’ve met a lot of scammers and losers who are out here pretending to have way more money than they do. From my experience, your gut always knows. It’s an energy thing. You can totally tell when a guy is being sketch or not based on just standing near him and exchanging a few words. If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is.
What lessons have you learned through sugaring?
Always have a backup plan to your backup plan to your plan. Otherwise, you will end up broke and disappointed. I can’t remember the number of times I’ve set aside my Friday night for a guy who has confirmed plans multiple times, only to have him flake at the last second. It’s almost as if guys get off knowing they have successfully prevented you from going off and fucking some other guy for money.
I would also say that I’ve learned a lot about human psychology. Men love feeling a sense of power and control over women. I think a big part of being a successful sugar baby is just being able to submit to that. Even when you know the guy is full of shit and you’re not into what he has to say, if you just go along with it and validate him, he will put you on a pedestal.
Have you told friends and family about what you do? How did they react?
I’ve told some friends and everyone has been chill about it. I think I just know who’s gonna be chill and whose not and avoid opening up about it to the haters because I’m not interested in being shamed. We’re all playing some kind of game in this life. Why wouldn’t I take advantage of my looks to get ahead in life?
Do you have a plan or end goal of when you want to get out of the game?
My exit plan is to eventually be full-time with my online business. I just got 10k followers on Instagram and that’s driving tons of traffic to my ecommerce site, so I’m hopeful that my sugaring career will be over in the next year or so.
It’s honestly been kind of fun living this adventurous double life. Especially after being in a relationship for two years with a super nice but boring guy. He was an actuary and just like super fucking vanilla. I loved him and he totally wanted to marry me and settle down but deep down I just knew that I would end up bored and cheat on him. And so I broke up with him.
That was like a year ago and that’s around the time I started the whole sugar daddy thing. It’s been a welcome change and I’m having fun with it for the most part but I don’t see myself being on it for much longer. It’s a phase not a life path, for me at least.
Do you have any regrets about your path?
No regrets.
How many daddies have you / do you currently see?
I have four. I see two on the regular. One of them says he’s going to pay me $150k for a green card marriage. So ya fingers crossed he’s not bullshitting me on that cause that would be life-changing.
What’s your vibe like with them? Is there physical and / or emotional chemistry or are you just focused on making dat moolah?
Very different. It depends on the dude and what they want. It’s a balance between all those things. I would say that when I’m more attracted to a guy physically, I’m way less demanding when it comes to allowance and stuff.
Do you know a lot of people in the sugaring / sex work game?
Just a few other girls who do sugaring. Nothing beyond that. Honestly I’ve lived a pretty sheltered life.
What’s your dream arrangement?
Exotic vacations are definitely a bucket list thing for me so I would love to have a daddy who is willing and able to take me all around the world. They always pretend like they have the time to do so but in reality, they mostly just spend their time working. $10k a month would be nice too.
Where do you see yourself in five years?
I see myself as a successful business woman, settled down somewhere in the country.
If you had a daddy who could fulfill one wish right now, what would you ask for?
Startup money for my business.
Do you see sugaring as a stigmatized thing or are we living in truly liberated times?
It’s stigmatized, even by the men who are after you. Especially if it’s your sole source of income. They want the innocent college girl or the working professional trying to pay off medical bills. Not someone from a lower-class background. My dad is retired now but he used to be a banker for Deustch Bank. Whenever I bring that up, daddies are so impressed and suddenly see me as more worthy. It’s fucked up.
Are you currently dating normies? If so, what’s it like balancing sugaring with normal dating?
Yes. It’s very hard to balance. I’m still hooking up with my ex and he’s honestly the perfect cover with my parents. I just say I’m sleeping over at his place, when really I’m taking the train to the city to have sex with a daddy.
It makes me feel sketchy though, having to tell all these white lies. I end up being kind of flakey and making a lot of “maybe” plans. But I just remind myself that it’s not forever.
How honest do you feel like you’ll be with the next serious partner you have about your sugaring past?
I would be honest about it and tell him some funny stories. If I didn’t feel comfortable being honest about my past with someone, I most definitely should not embark on a serious relationship with them.
Any additional thoughts / questions / comments?
No shame in the sugar game. Do what you gotta do to live the life you want to live.
Jules
Based in Brooklyn, Jules has dedicated her twenties towards harnessing her pussy power, exploring the muse, whore, and wild woman archetypes along the way. When not blogging, you can find her sweating the toxins out in a hot yoga class or sipping a matcha latte at a pretentious coffee shop, whilst she scribbles away in her journal.
