In this thought-provoking podcast episode 7 of “So you want to try” , we dive into the increasingly popular practice of semen retention with Nic Warner and its claimed physical, mental, and spiritual benefits. Drawing on ancient wisdom from Taoist and Tantric traditions, this conversation explores how deliberately abstaining from ejaculation might enhance vitality, boost energy, and elevate mental clarity. Tune in as we unpack both the traditional teachings and modern perspectives, examining how semen retention can fit practically into contemporary wellness routines.
Episode 7 of the Sensuali podcast features Nic Warner. Nic is a transformative coach and facilitator specialising in men’s work, rites of passage, relationships, intimacy, sexual empowerment and alternative medicine. Nic has dedicated his life to helping modern men heal and evolve, empowering individuals with clarity, purpose, authenticity, integrity and confidence. In this episode, Nic takes us on an exploration of semen retention, what that means, how to explore it safely and most importantly, the benefits of this unique practice.
Understanding Semen Retention: Benefits, Traditions, and Modern Perspectives
What is Semen Retention ?
Semen retention, an ancient practice rooted deeply in Taoist and Tantric traditions, involves intentionally refraining from ejaculation to conserve and harness sexual energy. It is believed by many to enhance vitality, cognitive clarity, and spiritual growth.
What the Art of Semen Retention Is
At its core, semen retention is the deliberate practice of avoiding ejaculation to conserve sexual energy, directing it inward for physical, mental, and spiritual enhancement. This art dates back thousands of years, originating from Eastern philosophies that emphasize holistic wellness.
Benefits of Retaining Energy Through Semen Retention
Practitioners of semen retention report numerous benefits:
- Increased physical energy and stamina
- Enhanced mental clarity and concentration
- Emotional stability and resilience
- Heightened spiritual awareness and connectedness
Understanding Jing, Chi & Shen
In traditional Chinese medicine, three essential energies underpin human vitality:
- Jing: Essence and foundational life energy stored within the body, linked to sexual energy.
- Chi (Qi): The life force energy flowing throughout the body, promoting overall health.
- Shen: The spiritual or mental energy that governs consciousness and emotional health.
Semen retention is said to help preserve Jing, thereby cultivating and enhancing Chi and Shen.
Orgasm and Ejaculation as Separate Processes
It’s essential to understand that orgasm and ejaculation are not inherently connected. Practitioners can experience orgasms without ejaculation, allowing for retention of energy. Learning to separate these processes can lead to deeper and prolonged pleasure without energy depletion.
Full Body Orgasms and Removing the End Goal
By removing ejaculation as the goal, individuals may experience full-body orgasms—a profound experience where sexual energy spreads throughout the body, offering deep physical and emotional fulfillment. This holistic approach moves away from performance-oriented intimacy toward a richer, more integrated sexual experience.
Myths Around Semen Retention in Relationships
One common myth is that semen retention negatively affects intimate relationships. However, many couples find that practicing retention can deepen emotional bonds, enhance intimacy, and foster better communication about desires and boundaries.
Exploring Shame and Guilt Around Sex
Semen retention provides an opportunity to explore and heal feelings of shame or guilt associated with sexuality. Engaging mindfully in this practice can lead to greater self-awareness, acceptance, and emotional healing around sexuality.
How to Explore Semen Retention with a Partner
Open communication is vital when exploring semen retention in relationships. Partners should discuss expectations, goals, and boundaries clearly. Engaging together through mindful practices such as meditation, gentle touch, and breathwork can strengthen trust and enhance intimacy.
When to Do the Practice and When Not to Do It
Semen retention can be beneficial when practiced intentionally and thoughtfully. However, it’s crucial to listen to one’s body and emotional needs. The practice should not feel restrictive or stressful. Individuals experiencing discomfort, frustration, or emotional distress should pause or adjust their approach.
Semen Retention and Pregnancy
Those trying to conceive should be mindful that regular ejaculation may increase fertility chances. However, incorporating semen retention intermittently can still be practiced outside conception-focused periods, balancing energy conservation with reproductive goals.
Risks and What You Should NOT Do
While semen retention is generally safe, certain precautions should be taken:
- Avoid forcing the practice if it causes pain or severe discomfort.
- Do not ignore emotional signals; if it leads to stress or anxiety, reconsider the approach.
- Seek medical advice if there are health concerns, particularly relating to prostate health or sexual dysfunction.
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Emma Cheeky
Emma is a qualified sex educator especially passionate about inclusive and comprehensive sex ed. By speaking about sex every day, she is on a mission to normalise sexuality and desire in all its forms.
Nic Warner
Nic is a transformative coach and facilitator specialising in men's work, rites of passage, relationships, intimacy, sexual empowerment and alternative medicine.
