Meet Agent Ida von Schmidt. She’s the mature Italo-German school teacher turned professional Dominatrix, who as a Disciplinarian specialises in traditional corporal punishment. Ida has been in the game for six years and prides herself on her authenticity and realistic role-play skills.
It’s a Wednesday when Sensuali meet with Ida, who sits proudly against the backdrop of her carefully curated Disciplinarian Studio. It’s clear, even after five minutes of chatting, that being a Disciplinarian is no mere amusement to her, in fact, as she goes on to explain, it is a way of life.
How did you become a Disciplinarian Dominatrix?
I’m Agent Ida von Schmidt, aka Madam Ida, and I’ve been working as a professional Disciplinarian Dominatrix for over five years. I’m a trained teacher and over the years have held leadership roles in several vanilla organisations. I love organising both things and people, and my bossy nature has earnt me the not so flattering nickname of “Gauleiter”. I’ve also always had an aggressive sexuality and have always been sexually dominant.
In 2016 my Mentor had a near-death experience and miraculously survived. This traumatic event made me realise that I needed to make the most of my life while I still could, so the following year I decided to realise my dream of becoming a professional Dominatrix. I signed up to the ProDomme course of the London Dominatrix School, and after concluding the course I maintained a role as School Ambassador and started working out of the Studio that is still home to the School.
How would you define your style as a domme?
I practise a fusion of traditional corporal punishment and bondage/BDSM, so I would say I’m a Disciplinarian Dominatrix.
I sincerely believe that as ProDommes we save relationships and marriages. Our clients have this itch that needs to be scratched, and it won’t go away until we have taken care of it. Once we have done so in our unique ways, they can go back to their everyday life, focusing on work and family – their lives find balance again.
What 3 words would you use to describe an experience with Agent Ida?
Exciting – intense – liberating
I believe my sessions are exciting, partly because I am a role-play enthusiast, and partly because the Studio caters for a variety of settings. We have a bunker/jail, a school room, a dungeon with mirrors, a suspension frame and all the torture tools, so a session with me is incredibly immersive and realistic.
As a person I am also very intense – I’m a hot blooded, passionate Italian and strict, disciplined German at the same time.
Lastly, I consider my sessions to be very liberating. I aim to free people from their frustrations, their guilt, their dissatisfactions – my aim is to make my clients feel good about themselves and give them renewed focus, and this in turn gives me great satisfaction.
Do you have a goal or a mission as a Disciplinarian Dominatrix?
My goal is to free my clients from their frustrations, from guilt, sometimes even shame. If you keep feelings and desires bottled inside instead of expressing them and acting on them, you will become ill. I truly believe that. Many people in this stressful world have fantasies, urges and desires that align with BDSM, but keep them hidden for fear of being exposed and judged. I want to help them find inner acceptance and balance which will have a long-lasting effect on their physical and mental wellbeing.
I’m convinced that clients also seek me out because I actually am an authentic Disciplinarian and look the part: I am a trained teacher, I’m mature, I’m a martial artist and weight lifter, which means that not only do I exude authority, but I’m also strong enough to physically overpower any willing client.
What is a common misconception about being a Dominatrix?
Being a Domme and/or Disciplinarian is not just about swinging a whip around or, as we often hear, about “beating men up”. On the contrary, there is a really deep psychological factor involved. We have to understand why the client is coming to see us, and it rarely is just about sexual pleasure. It is rather about an intense need that cannot be fulfilled in their vanilla life.
This is why I sincerely believe that as ProDommes we save relationships and marriages. Our clients have this itch that needs to be scratched, and it won’t go away until we have taken care of it. Once we have done so in our unique ways, they can go back to their everyday life, focusing on work and family – their lives find balance again.
Who is your typical client and why do they seek you out?
There isn’t really a “typical” client. I have men aged between 30 and 80 years old, lawyers, professors, tradesmen, middle and working class, and interestingly many are Jewish.
Because of the reputation I’ve built as a Disciplinarian, my most popular service is hardcore corporal punishment, which involves a lot of caning and spanking. Other popular services include mummification bondage, and of course pegging, CBT, facesitting etc.
I’m convinced that clients also seek me out because I actually am an authentic Disciplinarian and look the part: I am a trained teacher, I’m mature, I’m a martial artist and weight lifter, which means that not only do I exude authority, but I’m also strong enough to physically overpower any willing client.
Clients generally love everyday objects such as slippers, spatulas, belts and brushes. When they go back to their vanilla lives they are likely to see them in their own homes, and suddenly they are reminded of the punishment they received by my hand. It is a lot about reliving the experience.
What tools do you use as a Disciplinarian?
I am lucky to own and have been gifted some rather unique tools: aside from the usual disciplinarian implements, I have a sjambok, which is made from hippopotamus hide and was used by the South African police, so it’s very hardcore; I have a traditional Singapore prison cane – very hard and thuddy; I use a selection of heavy wooden paddles and absolutely adore using my bath brush. This brush is very popular because it is a simple and common household item that can deliver a really harsh punishment.
Clients generally love everyday objects such as slippers, spatulas, belts and brushes. When they go back to their vanilla lives they are likely to see them in their own homes, and suddenly they are reminded of the punishment they received by my hand. It is a lot about reliving the experience. Many clients even keep scrapbooks with photographs of the marks I have left on their body. They are quite rightly proud of them!
Do you enjoy your sessions?
I’m very lucky to be able to pick & choose who I see. It is imperative to have a good, respectful relationship with any client, but then there are those with whom you develop a special kind of chemistry. Those are the ones who usually come back, with whom you form a bond and with whom you grow side by side. They learn from you, but you learn from them as well.
And yes, I do get very excited in session and get great satisfaction from seeing men overcome pain and suffering for me! Although I am a rather private person and have never been part of any BDSM ‘scene’ as such, I very much enjoy what I do. This summer I went on holiday for four weeks, and I just couldn’t wait to get back again: I really missed the Studio and the exciting sessions.
There are clients who beg me to make them cry. There can be deep-rooted reasons for this and a cathartic release is crucial to them. Others are looking for a release from the pressures of having to be in charge and in control all the time in their job and everyday life.
How does a session begin?
There are different ways of approaching the start of a session and mine is part of the “all-in-straight-away” approach. If the client agrees, rather than having a client consultation at the beginning of a session, I prefer to be in character from the moment they walk through the door.
This however is only possible thanks to a thorough pre-booking process, which involves the client filling in a fairly detailed questionnaire followed by an extensive phone call during which a scenario will be discussed to ensure that anything that happens in session abides by the “Safe Sane & Consensual” rule.
For me an individually tailored role-play session which follows the ritualist process of confession, punishment and absolution, is worth more than numerous conventional therapy sessions.
What is BDSM to you?
To start with, certain aspects of BDSM can be considered an art/craft form: the way a well-wielded cane leaves perfect red parallel stripes on a white bottom – there’s something beautiful and mesmerising about it; or the intricate patterns created by skilfully applied needles or staples; and what about the art of Shibari – the list could go on!
BDSM is also a way of life to me. Even though I’m not a lifestyle Domme with slaves who are on call 24/7, being a Disciplinarian Dominatrix still very much defines who I am, even in my vanilla life.
Finally, as I explained in some of my previous answers, I consider BDSM a form of release therapy. For example, for fear of being judged and putting their relationship into jeopardy many men are reluctant to admit to their partners that they crave being pegged. With a ProDomme they can open up, simply because this is what we do.
Then there are clients who beg me to make them cry. There can be deep-rooted reasons for this and a cathartic release is crucial to them. Others are looking for a release from the pressures of having to be in charge and in control all the time in their job and everyday life.
When visiting a Dominatrix they trust, they can completely surrender all power and control and just “be”. So much could be said here à propos feeling liberated from societal conventions. I will just add that for me an individually tailored role-play session which follows the ritualist process of confession, punishment and absolution, is worth more than numerous conventional therapy sessions.
What is the most surprising thing you’ve learnt since starting out?
Before becoming a professional, in my private life, domination was principally part of my sexual game. However, while I attended the ProDomme course, I did a lot of reading and research, and began to properly educate myself. It was a revelation to learn how multi-faceted and deeply psychological BDSM actually is.
The second thing that astonished and still astonishes me, is how much pain these men and women can take! As a professional Disciplinarian I feel it is my duty to try out every punishment I administer to see what the different implements, tools and toys feel like, and even though I have a relatively high pain threshold I must admit that even the lighter canes sting too much for me!
I therefore have a lot of respect for all those people who fight through the barriers of fear and pain to reach inner balance and calm. I always say that it takes a strong person to submit, because you put yourself, your life and your trust entirely into the hands of your Dominant and let them push you beyond your comfort zone.
Any advice for aspiring dommes?
If you’re unsure of what to do to unleash your inner Dominatrix I can highly recommend the London Dominatrix School. Led by practising ProDommes and supported by a male model, they teach you both practice and theory: they teach not only how to use certain implements, but also about client psychology, screening, setting up a business, they help you create a brand for yourself and even point you to sex worker-friendly accountants. They also reassure you of the legality of what you’re doing and help you navigate the system. It’s a great springboard to becoming a pro!
What do you think about Sensuali so far?
I love the signing up process: it’s very easy and very detailed, plus it’s sure to match you up with the right people. Definitely a very well thought-through platform!
Iso
Iso is a writer and filmmaker based in East London. She is passionate about all things erotic and leads a sexy, shame-free life in hope that she can inspire others to do the same. Originally from a Northern seaside town, she is naturally drawn to the best things in life: candyfloss, trashy karaoke bars and heart-shaped sunglasses.
