If you crave a powerful woman taking control, then maybe Femdom is for you. We caught up with Fetish enthusiast Miss White, who tells us everything we need to know about the world of FemDom.
As the old saying goes, “Whips and chains excite me”, but what exactly does being dominated entail, and how many people are actually into Femdom?
If you don’t already know, Femdom is short for Female Dominance – and is a dynamic and liberating section of BDSM. Femdom challenges traditional gender norms and allows people to completely submit to the beauty and dominance of a powerful woman. Fem Dom comes in many forms but can involve, humiliation, degradation impact place and servitude – sounds fun!
Many people look to Femdom as a way of releasing control from their otherwise hectic, high-pressure lifestyles. It can be enjoyed by all genders and within the kink scene there are a wide variety of Femdoms out there. People visit dommes for many reasons, but ultimately it’s a way for someone to explore their desires in a judgement-free safe space in a consentual and empowering way.
To give us more of an explanation, we spoke with Femdom expert and kink enthusiast Miss White, who has been active within the London kink scene for a number of years.
What is your name and your role within FemDom?
My name is Miss White, I am a Femdom enthusiast and take on this role and lifestyle for fun but not professionally.
When did you know that you lean more towards Dominance?
Well, I have always been a dominant woman, I’d say I am a bit of a confessed control freak. I used to be submissive until I entered the fetish scene a few years back and started to experiment more with degradation and humiliation with play partners and submissives.
How do you establish those roles with play partners?
Honestly, when I find a potential play partner I explain to them that I am dominant and I lean more towards that side, however, with women I can be a switch (for the right woman at least).
Do you ever switch?
As I said, I only ever switch with women. I feel a lot more comfortable to do so, and I can be a little slut for them if the vibe is right.
Why do you classify yourself as a dom? Did anything happen in your life to make you seek out being dominant?
To tell you the truth – yes, I was always submissive throughout my life in every area that involved people. I never knew how to stand up for myself, I would describe the old me as a massive doormat when I was younger, but as I got a little older that submissive side of me grew and I fell into submission to a point where I stopped honouring and respecting myself. When I finally discovered my dominant side, I found power I had never never felt before. The more I explored this side of myself, the more I realised it came easy and I found it very comforting.
Do the type of play partners you attract who want you to be dom want the same thing?
The type of play I explore with a partner doesn’t change based on gender unless they want it to. It all depends on my play partner and how they feel about it, if they are neutral towards it then no the domination is the same regardless of my partner’s gender.
Do you consider yourself feminine?
I do consider myself feminine; I love the power that my femininity possesses.
What’s the most important thing a Dom needs to consider whilst taking on the Femdom role?
Communication, always. Be clear with boundaries, theirs and yours, have strong, safe words and check up during intense sessions. Aftercare, for me, is a necessity.
What’s been the most rewarding experience you’ve had during a dom play session?
The most rewarding thing is when my play partner or I realise something about ourselves thatbwe haven’t before, this can be sexual or non-sexual. BDSM is a form of therapy and if practiced correctly and safely it can transform your life in the most positive and powerful way.
What piece of advice would you give to someone who wants to try domming for the first time but hasn’t before?
To other dominants, I would say the best piece of advice is to emerge yourself into the fetish scene, to do your research to practice with a partner you trust and who trusts you. Remember it is a process and it’s okay, not to be perfect. Just make sure to communicate and to be respectful of boundaries and consent always.
Losing control is incredibly sexy, and all shame associated with doing so should be forgotten. Life is truly too short not to go after your desires. If you’ve been inspired to explore Femdom, check out Sensuali, where you can browse hundreds of profiles and find the perfect Femdom partner.
Want to know more? Read about Femdom through history on the Sensuali blog.
In conversation with: our exclusive chat with London Femdom mistress, Sevvven.
Drew
Drew, aka Wise and Manly is a sexuality coach helping people to love themselves. As a bisexual man, he makes content about owning and embracing your sexuality as well as accepting your authentic self.
