The Mentality Behind Footfetish

The most fetishised area of the body is feet. The most fetishised object that isn’t a part of the body is footwear. Andre Perugis once said, ‘Almost every woman is not only conscious of her feet, but sex conscious about them.’ Boot worship dates back to the 1800s. But why are we so obsessed with all things foot? Freud had a couple of theories, one being that the foot resembles a penis, whilst the shoe represents  female genitalia- and when the shoe enters the foot, it is a union, like sex, that is symbolically complete. A bit of a stretch in my humble opinion, but I don’t have any better suggestions. 

That’s why I sat down with Neil* (43);  your everyday Geordie bloke, and absolutely not the kind of person you’d expect to worship footwear. The world of foot and shoe fetish is larger and more varied than you can imagine, but I wanted to get an insight into Neil’s personal mentality behind his shoe obsession. 

When and how did you first realise you had a footwear fetish?

In my early teens I realised I liked lasses’ shoes- I’d find any reason to have their feet touch me. For example, I noticed that a girl in my friendship group loved putting her foot on the chair of whoever was sat opposite her and sometimes press his groin with her shoe, so I always tried to sit opposite her…Then when I was 20 I found I would sneak a smell of girl’s footwear if they had taken off their shoes and left them by the front door. From 28 upwards I started to pay women to use their booted feet to do stuff for me, from crushing food and making me lick it off, to walking on me, plus them making me eat their spit and being kicked in the groin so hard until I begged them to stop. Since then, I’ve fulfilled my footwear fantasies hundreds of times- though I’ve only come to orgasm during these sessions about three times. Cumming isn’t very important for me.

What’s going on with your fetish currently?

I have a thing going on with my hairdresser, but not as much as I’d like. I’d love to be her bitch. At the moment I pay her £10 a week to clean her footwear (by licking). However she has a pair of Skechers and the sole hurts my tongue. I told her, and she said she didn’t care whether it hurt or not, which I loved. So even though she knows I would rather lick her Doc Martens, she wants me to do the Skechers because I don’t want to. So now that just makes me want to lick her Skechers so much..The fact that they make me do something I don’t want to do actually makes me want to do it- I love being forced.

Why do you think you like footwear more than you like feet?

Kissing someone’s feet is nice, but licking someone’s boot soles is more degrading. I love the fact that they have been walking `around in them all day and they don’t give a fuck- they force me to lick them clean. 

There is a theory that foot and shoe fetishes are the most popular because as a baby you’re crawling around your mum’s feet (and other people’s feet) a lot, and that memory stick in your mind. I laughed at first when I heard this, but on reflection there were always loads of women at my mum’s house and they wore stilettos. Even then I knew my favourite shoe- pointy toed patent black heels. 

Do you view the shoe sole licking as punishment?

I like it so much that I don’t see it as punishment. I guess especially if it’s something nice- if a woman stands in a cake, or has very clean soles, I’m not complaining. If she stands in mud, that’s punishment. 

Would you describe yourself as submissive?

I am more submissive than dominant. In my relationships however I have been 50/50. I prefer to explore my submissive side with women who don’t like me. If someone loved me, they might feel genuinely bad that I had to lick nasty stuff off their shoe soles, whereas women who don’t have any emotional feelings towards me don’t care. I don’t want them to necessarily like me. It’s better to maintain a distance between us, so I usually go for women who live far away so we can meet only so often. I don’t need sex from them- I don’t feel I deserve it. Being under their heel is as much as I feel I should get. 

Why do you think you are submissive and have a footwear fetish?

I never had much confidence as a child because I had a huge birthmark on my nose (which I eventually got removed) but it shattered my confidence in my early years. I was bullied for years. Then my stepdad was heavily abusive to my mother-  I loved very much and it made me respect women and  want to never treat them how my father did. He was a nasty piece of work and I think I also became used to being made to feel small.  I don’t think the abuse gave me the footwear fetish though. 

There is a theory that foot and shoe fetishes are the most popular because as a baby you’re crawling around your mum’s feet (and other people’s feet) a lot, and that memory stick in your mind. I laughed at first when I heard this, but on reflection there were always loads of women at my mum’s house and they wore stilettos. Even then I knew my favourite shoe- pointy toed patent black heels. 

What sort of women do you go for?

Because I have a fetish, people told me I should find a mistress. I paid to see one and I absolutely hated it. I’m not too into the ‘yes mistress, no mistress’ thing. I honestly enjoy fulfilling my fantasy with normal women. I generally end up with sweet, soft girls, possibly because I’m a soft guy so attract similar people? It’s out of character for them to be really bossy or nasty. If I had met a bossy woman maybe I’d be happily married and settled by now.

Do you view women as being superior to you?

I’m not sure. I don’t like being bossed around in public or in a work environment, for example if a woman tried to belittle me I wouldn’t like it. In public if a woman was purposely stepping on things, like cigarette butts in front of me, knowing I would have to lick it later, I would love it- but if she asked me to get down and lick them right there in public, I would be horrified. 

Did you ever feel any shame about liking what you like?

I did in the early years but not anymore. It’s part of me, so I just try and enjoy it. 

Do you view your submissive side as very separate to your everyday life?

Yes, I’m not a sub in any other way. 

Do your family and friends know about your fetish?

They found out accidentally. Now they don’t even mention it. My work mates don’t know. I was really embarrassed at first, but now they know its’s great. I don’t bring it up though, it’s my private thing.

Do you have any fantasies you haven’t yet fulfilled?

I don’t think it could ever be fulfilled, and I’ve never heard of anyone else wanting it. I would love a woman to wear big boots, and to push a flat pump style shoe all the way into my mouth, stamping with her boots on it until it’s properly in my mouth. Then I’d love her to change into stilettos and push on the pump more until the high heel is deep in my mouth and the pump is all the way down my throat- so far down that I have no choice but to swallow it. I have tried it before but have always had a string ties to the shoe so i can get it out again…if the string snapped I’d be fucked! 

Do you have footwear you like footwear you don’t like?

Absolutely. My favourites are pointy toe heels, flat leather boots, Doc Martens, Nike Air Max, kickers, and more recently Converse and Vans. It’s very hard to lick suede so no suede and my worst nightmare is crocs.

How important is the footwear compared to the woman herself in regards to getting you turned on?

I would be gutted if my dream woman asked me to lick her soles and she was wearing crocs. I would do it but it would be nowhere near as good. Similarly, if a not so attractive woman was wearing my dream shoes, I would happily lick them. Stick a stunning woman in my favourite shoes and..well, I might explode. 

Has your fetish changed over the years?

It was mild in my early years, but it got intense about 6 years ago when I met this girl who pushed me to my limits. I haven’t seen her as much for the past couple of years and it’s calmed down a little. But it’s still much more important than actual sex to me.

Iso

Author

Iso is a writer and filmmaker based in East London. She is passionate about all things erotic and leads a sexy, shame-free life in hope that she can inspire others to do the same. Originally from a Northern seaside town, she is naturally drawn to the best things in life: candyfloss, trashy karaoke bars and heart-shaped sunglasses.