If you were to take a guess at how many women over 50 were getting it (and getting it good) do you think it would be more than 50%? Would it even even be more than 25%?
And younger women? Yeah, they might be having a little more sex but are they having sex that they are happy with? Open, communicative, healthy sex, where they get their fill too?
The reality is that the majority of society’s women face the consequences of a lifetime of sexual repression and instilled shame. Meaning that they don’t necessarily know their own bodies, so they don’t know what they want in sex, and even if they do- they don’t feel it’s ‘correct’ for women to ask for it. Many women go through long, sexless marriages that end in divorce and have become to alienated from self-pleasure and sensual touch that they have no idea how to get back into the game.
The majority of FBSM (full body sensual massage) clients are men. But in recent years this is gradually changing. As the sex-positive movement fights on, more and more women are interested in FBSM and more male practitioners are offering services. For women, it’s as a way to reconnect to their pleasure and to experience the sensual touch of another person in a safe space before jumping straight back into the intimating world of casual dating. Here are some of the main reasons why every woman should experience a FBSM.
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Stress Relief and Relaxation
First things first- just because a FBSM is ✨sensual✨, it doesn’t mean that it’s not every bit as distressing and relaxing as your everyday massage. You can still get everything you could get in a typical massage and request different pressure or focus points etc.
Getting to know yourself
Before anything else, you gotta get to know your own body and what it enjoys. FBSM offers a space to focus solely on this, slowly and sensitively. It’s not only about pleasure and relaxation, but largely about learning- which is something many of our everyday sexual experiences lack.
You might think you know your pleasure, but you only really know what you know. FBSM is a heightened sensory experience that will make you realise that there’s many more sensations to be explored.
And remember, you set your own limits. If you’re not quite ready to be touched in certain areas, then your masseuse will respect that and simply explore sensual touch on the more typical areas of your body. The point is that you’re going to come out of the massage feeling a lot more love for your body.
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Pure, unadulterated pleasure
You might feel weird about getting a FBSM. Maybe you feel uncomfortable with the idea of paying for something sensual, maybe this notion bruises your ego a little, which is understandable given how the concept of a woman paying for sensual services has been very foreign in the recent past.
The reality is that FBSM is about an elevated pleasurable experience. We normally pay for things because we know it’s going to be worth it. We pay for a massage rather than ask our friend to give us one because a professional knows what they’re doing and will provide a better experience. Paying for a FBSM is no different. You’re going to experience a lotof pleasure- in a very safe environment, where the focus is totally on you.
Practising asking for what you want
One of the biggest advantages of FBSM is that there is going to be a lovely flow of communication between yourself and the practitioner. They are going to push you to practise asking for what you want. It can be so scary asking someone to do something in sex- especially as women who on the whole are more empathetic. You often feel like you might hurt someone’s feelings or that they will judge you for having desires. During a FBSM you will learn that asking for what you want is sexy and you will practise enough to feel confident in sexual communication afterwards.
Learning how to have better sex
Although penetrative sex is not a part of FBSM, the incredibly slow, soft and intimate way that your practitioner will interact with you is going to rub off. Your mind is going to be opened up to just how profound a sensual experience can be. A FBSM essentially reconnects you to your sensual self and makes you remember your feminine energy. It will inspire you and empower you. Coming out of a FBSM, you will be more confident in yourself as the wonderful, sexual being that you are.
Exploring your fantasies & desires
When you get a FBSM, you will likely very quickly feel a trusting and intimate bond between yourself and the practitioner. This is a place where you can talk about any fantasies or desires that you have without having to feel embarrassed. FBSM practitioners have plenty of experience in helping women come to terms with their desires and verbally encompassing these into the session is usually welcomed with open arms. An FBSM is more than just a massage, it’s a safe place to explore your sensuality as a whole.
There’s health benefits too!
Not all benefits of FBSM are linked to sex and pleasure. There are several health benefits also linked to FBSM.
Circulation & flexibility
The physical touch involved in sensual massage can stimulate blood circulation and increase flexibility. This can contribute to improved physical health, muscle relaxation, and a heightened sense of overall vitality.
Easing period pain
Some women also find that the relaxing effects of sensual massage can help alleviate symptoms of menstrual discomfort. The release of endorphins and the overall sense of relaxation may contribute to a reduction in menstrual cramps and tension.
Better snoozing
The relaxation induced by sensual massage can positively impact sleep quality. Many women report better sleep after engaging in a session, which can contribute to improved overall physical and mental well-being.
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Iso
Iso is a writer and filmmaker based in East London. She is passionate about all things erotic and leads a sexy, shame-free life in hope that she can inspire others to do the same. Originally from a Northern seaside town, she is naturally drawn to the best things in life: candyfloss, trashy karaoke bars and heart-shaped sunglasses.
