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Spank me like you mean it.
Chatouille
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Female, Bisexual, Berlin DE
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breeleche
BDSM, Coach & Muse
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Trained sexologist and certified sex and relationship coach. I love helping folks safely explore their desires and expand their skills. Warm and friendly BDSM enthusiast excited to play.
knotsnacks
Artist, BDSM & Content creator
Non Binary, Queer, Los Angeles CA US
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Experience the beauty in suffering
intentionalkink
Content creator & BDSM
Non Binary, Bisexual, Austin TX US
In person & Online
Be the kink you want to see in the world.
mistressseren
BDSM, Coach & Educator
Female, Sapiosexual, New York NY US
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For the Discerning and Depraved
handsoferos
BDSM & Content creator
Male, Straight, Berlin DE
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As a Hypno-Shibari Artist and Soft Dom, I weave the art of Shibari with the depth of hypnosis to create transformative, kinky and healing experiences. I spend my time exploring the delicate balance of power, impact and tenderness, always seeking new ways to connect deeply with others. Friends describe me as an "iron glove in a velvet glove"—firm yet tender. Passionate about unlocking inner potential and fostering self-discovery, I am on a journey of constant learning and profound connection.
JanelleMarie
BDSM, Companion & Educator
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BDSM, Massage & Therapist
Male, Straight, Prague CZ
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“Only dead fish go with the flow.”
What is spanking?
Spank me like you mean it.
Spanking is the act of striking the backside with the hand or an implement for pleasure, arousal, or as part of BDSM activities. It can range from playful and light swats to more intense and deliberate strikes, depending on the preferences and boundaries of those involved. Spanking is often used as a form of erotic stimulation, power exchange, or a means of incorporating pain and pleasure in a consensual and negotiated manner.
What makes it hot?
The idea of spanking can be arousing for various reasons. Firstly, it introduces an element of power dynamics, where one person takes on the role of the giver and the other as the receiver. The act itself combines the sensations of touch, pain, and pleasure, creating a unique and intense experience.
Additionally, spanking can elicit a sense of vulnerability and submission, adding to the erotic charge of the activity. The audible sounds produced during spanking can also contribute to the overall sensory experience, making it a popular and arousing element within BDSM practices.
While spanking is a common element in BDSM practices, it doesn't exclusively belong to BDSM. Some engage in spanking as part of playful or erotic activities outside the realm of BDSM.
Spanking specifically refers to striking the buttocks, while other forms of impact play may involve striking different parts of the body with various implements.
Yes, preferences can vary widely. Some individuals may enjoy light and playful spanking, while others prefer more intense and disciplinary experiences. Communication is key to understanding individual preferences.
Black and Blue: a story on spanking
Wednesday 24 July 2024
'He told me to lift up my skirt and slid down my thong all the way to my knees.' To celebrate world BDSM day, Berlin-based erotic writer, Pimenta Cítrica shares a short and spicy spanking story.
The disciplinarian dominatrix: meet Agent Ida
Friday 22 September 2023
Sensuali chatted with Agent Ida von Schmidt, the Disciplinarian Dominatrix with a passion for role play and traditional corporal punishment. We discuss her collection of punishment implements, some common misconceptions about Dommes, and BDSM as a form of therapy.
Cute kink illustration: meet Rebecca Lightbody
Friday 4 August 2023
We chatted with kink illustration extraordinaire and lingerie lover Rebecca Lightbody, about her fetish zines, the eroticism of lingerie, and her overarching mission to bring kink out of the shadows and into the light.
Sensual Domination: The Healing Kink The World Needs Right Now
Thursday 13 April 2023
It’s time for the collective consciousness to switch gears from pain-focused BDSM to sensual dominance. Mankind is in crisis and needs healing. Sensual dominance offers a solution.
Confessions of a London Spanky: Alina
Thursday 20 January 2022
Reflections from a retired spanky featuring a few epiphanies and loads of kinky sex experiences.
DO
Communicate clearly: Open and honest communication is crucial. Discuss desires, boundaries, and preferences before engaging in spanking activities.
Start lightly: If new to spanking, start with light and gentle swats to gauge comfort levels. Gradually increase intensity based on the receiver's response.
Use safe words: Establish and use safe words to ensure clear communication and allow the receiver to communicate if the spanking becomes too intense or uncomfortable.
DON'T
Ignore consent: Always ensure that all parties involved have explicitly consented to engage in spanking activities. Consent is ongoing and can be withdrawn at any time.
Strike unsafe areas: Avoid striking the lower back, kidneys, or spine, as these areas can be sensitive and potentially harmful. Focus on the fleshy parts of the buttocks.
Rush: Take your time and pace the spanking activities. Rushing can lead to miscommunication, discomfort, or unintended harm.
