The world has never been so mad about pegging as it is today. However, navigating the world of strap ons is no easy feat. Here’s the Sensuali comprehensive guide to buying a strap on in 2023.
Which harness is right for you?
No strap on is quite the same, you see. There are many types available. Starting with the harness.
The classic: two-strap harness: This classic design consists of a harness with two straps that go around the waist and another strap that goes between the legs. The dildo is attached to the front of the harness.
The sexy: G-string or thong harness: This style is more minimalistic, featuring a G-string or thong-style harness that goes around the waist and between the buttocks. It offers less coverage than a two-strap harness.
The manly: boxer or brief harness: Resembling underwear, boxer or brief-style harnesses provide more coverage than traditional harnesses. They offer a comfortable fit and are often preferred for their secure feel.
The fashionista: corset-style harness: Corset-style harnesses feature lacing on the back, allowing for a customisable fit. They are often more decorative and can be visually appealing.
The popular: jockstrap harness: Similar to a jockstrap, this harness style has straps that go around the waist and down between the buttocks. It provides a secure fit and is often favoured for its simplicity.
Which dildo is right for you?
Onto the dildo! Here are a few important factors to consider when buying a dildo.
Material: Dildos come in various materials, including silicone, rubber, glass, metal, and more. Silicone is a popular choice due to its body-safe and non-porous nature. Be aware of any potential allergies or sensitivities to specific materials.
Size and shape: Consider your experience level and personal preferences regarding size and shape. Dildos come in a range of lengths and girths. If you’re a beginner, you may want to start with a smaller size and gradually move up.
Texture: Some dildos have a smooth surface, while others may feature textured patterns or raised veins for added spice and stimulation.
Firmness: Dildos vary in firmness. Some are soft and flexible, while others are more rigid. The level of firmness can impact the sensation and comfort during use. Choose a firmness level that suits your preferences.
Base or suction cup: Many dildos come with a flared base or suction cup. A flared base is crucial for anal play to prevent the dildo from getting lost inside. A suction cup can be useful for hands-free use on smooth surfaces.
Harness compatibility: Check if it is harness-compatible. Some dildos are specifically designed with a flared base suitable for use with harnesses.
Material flexibility: Consider the flexibility of the material. Some people prefer a more flexible and bendable dildo, while others may prefer a sturdier feel. The material’s flexibility can affect the overall comfort and sensation.
Realistic vs. non-realistic: Dildos come in both realistic and non-realistic designs. Decide whether you prefer a lifelike appearance or a more abstract, artistic design.
Temperature sensitivity: Glass and metal dildos can be temperature-sensitive, allowing you to experiment with temperature play. They can be warmed or cooled for different sensations.
Lubrication compatibility: Different materials may require specific types of lubricants. Check the product guidelines to ensure compatibility with the lubricant you intend to use.
Cleaning and maintenance: Consider the ease of cleaning and maintenance. Non-porous materials like silicone, glass, and metal are generally easier to clean. Make sure to follow the manufacturer’s guidelines for cleaning and storage.
Mutual pleasure options
Strapless strap on: Unlike traditional harnesses, strapless strap-ons are worn internally by the person providing penetration. They have a bulb or tapered end that is inserted into the wearer, and the other end protrudes for penetration.
Double-Ended Dildos: While not technically a strap-on, double-ended dildos are used for shared penetration. Both ends can be used simultaneously by partners without the need for a harness.
Vibrating strap on: If you’re looking for something to give you that extra buzz, then there is a whole world of vibrating strap on’s designed for couples seeking to explore new dimensions of pleasure.
Strap-ons for peeps with penises
Hollow Strap Ons: Designed for individuals with penises, hollow strap-ons have an opening that allows the wearer’s penis to fit inside. This style is often used by individuals experiencing erectile difficulties.
Where to buy a strap-on?
Simple: If you’re not fussy and on a budget, Amazon or Love Honey are 2 easy options. Or you can head to Whipple Tickle, which has a variety of products for diversity, including a huge range of strap ons!
In-person: If you want to go on a real-life strap-on hunt (who doesn’t?) then Ann Summers is a great option, or local independent sex shops should also provide reasonably priced strap-ons.
Boujee: If a run-on-the-mill dildo simply won’t suffice, then check out Coco De Mer, situated in Camden. Online boutique retailers such as Myla, Unbound, and LELO are also great options. Otherwise, wait it out until you can go to a sex-positive fetish event, where there tend to be independent retailers selling bespoke kink wear and toys.
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Featured art: ‘Woman holding the dildo’ by Emilia Prusak.
Iso
Iso is a writer and filmmaker based in East London. She is passionate about all things erotic and leads a sexy, shame-free life in hope that she can inspire others to do the same. Originally from a Northern seaside town, she is naturally drawn to the best things in life: candyfloss, trashy karaoke bars and heart-shaped sunglasses.
